​Reclaiming My Voice: Healing the Silence and Embracing God-Given Creativity
I grew up in a home where my voice was silenced and where my opinions weren't welcomed.  Choices, some of them life changing, were taken out of my hands.  Criticism was constant, and praise an exceptional oddity. 

For a long time, I believed this was normal — that somehow I wasn’t meant to speak, to choose, to create. I didn't see it as self-sabotage at the time, but I can now see how I was living reactively rather than proactively, almost like I was waiting for someone to give me permission to live. Growing up with this meant it was safer to keep quiet.  Fear of doing the wrong thing and potentially suffering negative responses to it took root in me.  In my generation this was all quite common, so that now there is a generation of women in their 60's who are no longer willing to live under these lies.  Our parents were the object of war time upbringing, deprivation, making do, and father's bought up by men traumatised by war. 

When we are raised in an environment such as this it suppresses our true identity.  We learn to shrink. We stop trusting our instincts and we stop dreaming.  We stop creating in case we do it wrong.  
BUT GOD....!
God doesn’t silence us.
He calls us.
He invites us.
He equips us to rise in confidence, boldness, and creativity — not through performance, but through identity.

SO NOW WE LEARN that we don’t need anyone’s permission to be who I truly am.
The Holy Spirit within us is not passive — He is powerful, creative, wise, and active. He leads us to live from a place of love and truth, not fear and criticism. We know that we are allowed to speak, to create, to choose. And so are you.

Whether your story echoes mine or carries its own version of silencing, I want to remind you today: you do not have to stay in hiding. You do not need to wait for permission. Your voice matters. Your choices matter. Your creativity is needed in this world. God has placed something beautiful inside of you, and it’s time to let it breathe.

📜 Daily Declaration for Voice, Confidence & Creativity
To help shift the atmosphere of my heart and mind, I’ve been speaking this declaration aloud each day. I invite you to make it yours too:

I am no longer silent.
God has given me a voice, and I choose to use it with courage and grace.
I do not need permission to be who I am.
I am already accepted, chosen, and loved by God. That is enough.
I am not defined by my past.
Criticism does not hold power over me. I release the lies I was told and receive God’s truth instead.
I am free to create, to express, and to act.
The Holy Spirit lives within me — I carry power, love, and a sound mind.
I choose to live proactively, not reactively.
I take ownership of my life, my choices, and my voice.
My creativity is a gift from God.
I will not bury it in fear. I will explore, play, and create with joy and freedom.
Today, I move forward in confidence.
One step, one choice, one word at a time — I am walking in newness of life.

Let this affirmation be an anchor for your healing. Release the lie that you need permission to express yourself.  We are not women made to be small.
We are women made in the image of God — powerful, creative, and called.
And we are finding our voices again.

​There is a divine call going out to the daughters of God--a call to rise, to govern, to proclaim, and to shift. If you’ve felt the stirring, the longing for more, the dissatisfaction with the familiar, then this word is for you.
You Were Chosen for This“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
—1 Peter 2:9
Before you ever stepped foot on this earth, you were chosen. Chosen, not because of your works, but because He saw you as already worthy. He saw what you would carry. You were appointed and anointed, part of His royal priesthood. That means you don’t walk in your own name—you walk in His authority.
You are a dedicated woman, part of His peculiar and treasured people. He’s set you apart, not to blend in but to proclaim His excellencies—to shine, speak, serve, and stir others into faith.
You Were Appointed to Bear Fruit“You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last.”
—John 15:16
You’ve been appointed—placed intentionally, positioned purposefully. You’re not just surviving—you’ve been commissioned into your assignment. Each of us has our “5000” to feed—those we’ve been called to reach and influence with the love and power of Christ.
And here's the key: the fruit only comes when we abide. When we remain connected to Him—not just visiting on Sundays, but living in indwelling Oneness with Jesus. His name is not something we invoke like a spell. It’s the place we live from, His presence within us. He is not an external God who pops in when things go wrong—He is our very breath.
The Wake-Up Call to the Women of GodWe’ve heard about the Deborahs—women raised by God to lead, to deliver, to govern. That call still echoes. Isaiah 32:9–15 is a wake-up cry from the Father’s heart to His women: Wake up! Rise up! Shake off passivity and take back your nation.
You have the capability and capacity to shift the spiritual climate of your family, your city, even your nation. You are seated in Christ, and He has given you the authority to govern. Will you take your seat?
Fan Into Flame the Fire Within You“Fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you…”
—2 Timothy 1:6
Before you came to earth, God placed a gift, an inner fire within you. It’s time to stir it up. Don’t let your fire smolder under the weight of delay or distraction. Ask the Lord to blow on it afresh. You are not starting from scratch. You are starting from fullness.
From the Pool to the ProclamationLet’s visit John 5, the story of the man at the pool of Bethesda—a place called mercy and grace. But here’s the revelation: it’s not just a healing story, it’s a dimension-shifting moment.
This man had sat in the same condition, by the same pool, for years--waiting. Waiting for someone to carry him. Waiting for the right moment. Waiting for a move. But when Jesus entered—everything changed.
“Do you want to be well?” —Jesus asked.
That question still confronts us. Do we want what God has for us? Or have we grown comfortable beside our pool of waiting?
It’s Big Girl Panties time, friend.
Jesus says, “Get up. Pick up your mat and walk.” And He’s saying it to us, too. It’s time to move. Not someday. Not when someone else opens the door. Now.
This is your moment to shift—from the physical to the spiritual, from passivity to power, from waiting to walking. Jesus is already in you. You carry the Word, and the Word carries resurrection power.
Don’t let anyone claw you back into old limitations or legalistic expectations. You’re not bound by the old anymore—you’re walking proof of the new.
You Are the ProofYou don’t have to strive to convince others. Like the man at the pool, your life will be the evidence. The fruit will be undeniable. Because when Jesus shows up in a woman’s life, she becomes the proof in the pudding.
You carry within you:

• The Word
• The Spirit
• The Fire
• The Fruit
• The Authority
• The Assignment

Today, I Declare Over You:🔥 A shift in perspective and dimension
🔥 A rekindling of the flame of God within you
🔥 A release from delay--your days of sitting by the pool are over
🔥 A rising into your authority as one who is chosen, equipped, and fully able
You’re not waiting for a move. You are the move.
Now get up. Pick up your mat. Walk. Speak. Govern. Proclaim.
You were chosen for such a time as this.

Devotional: Rise, DaughterScripture for Today:
“You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last.”
—John 15:16 (NIV)
Reflection:
You are not overlooked. You are not disqualified.
You have been chosen on purpose for a purpose—to bear lasting fruit in your life, family, and calling.
Are you waiting beside a “pool” in your life? Maybe you’ve been waiting for a breakthrough, a sign, a release—when all along, the presence and power of Jesus have been within you. What if today is the day you stand up in faith and begin to walk?
The mat you’ve been lying on—past hurts, fear, comparison, delay—it no longer holds authority over you. Jesus is calling you up and out. And with Him, you lack nothing. You’re already full, already equipped, already sent.
Time to fan into flame what’s already inside of you.
Devotional Prompts:

• What mat do you need to rise from? What’s been holding you in delay or comfort?
  
• Where have you been waiting, when God is inviting you to move?
  
• What fruit do you believe God wants to bear through your life right now?
  

Prayer:
Lord, thank You for choosing me.
Thank You that I don’t have to strive to be worthy—you’ve already called me worthy.
Today, I respond to Your voice calling me to rise.
Fan into flame the fire within me. Stir my heart, awaken my gifts, and give me courage to pick up my mat and walk in the fullness of Your calling.
Help me to stay in Your presence, abide in You, and bear fruit that lasts.
I say yes to the shift. Yes to the call. Yes to You.

“When you have eaten and are full…” – Deuteronomy 8
Have you ever considered that it can be harder to be rich in your blessings than to be content in hardship?
Let’s pause and repeat that:
It can often be harder to be rich in our blessings and content in our hardships.
It’s true—life can feel simpler when we have less. There’s a clarity of need, a simplicity in survival. But what happens when God blesses us with more? With abundance?
If we desire increase—whether financially, spiritually, emotionally, or relationally—then we also need the capacity to carry that increase well. God equips us, but we have a responsibility to learn how to walk in abundance with integrity.
Will You Still Be Standing?If you were placed in the lap of luxury, could you stay grounded—morally, spiritually, and financially? Or would the world’s ways, and the ease of "taking it for granted," slowly erode the foundation beneath you?
In the tough times, our need is clear. But in the easy times, once the basics are taken care of, the needs quickly shift into wants. It becomes a buffet of indulgences—“Which lollipop shall I eat first?”
It’s a bit like walking a tightrope. What keeps us balanced?

• Integrity
  
• Humility
  
• A lack of compromise
  
• Faithfulness to God
  
• Gratitude
  
• Generosity
  

But compromise and temptation whisper constantly. “Just a little,” they say. “God won’t notice.”
He will.
There’s no room for compromise when we’ve been entrusted with more. Our integrity stands on our unwavering commitment to live according to God’s Word.
Handling Riches with WisdomHow we handle what we have—whether a little or a lot—reveals the condition of our heart.

• What is your attitude toward money?
  
• Are there emotional or spiritual strongholds shaping how you view wealth?
  
• Do you see your increase as a tool for Kingdom impact or personal status?
  

Lotto winners are often broken within a short time—not because they lacked money, but because they lacked the financial, emotional, and spiritual maturity to steward it. They weren’t prepared for increase.
So, let me ask: Have you made a plan for your increase?
If not, it’s time.
The Western dream tells us more = happiness. So we chase it: new cars, bigger houses, shinier toys. But when the root is a heart trying to prove something or fill a void, that dream becomes a trap.
We can only live in one house at a time.
We can only drive one car at a time.
If you only use your boat four times a year, is that good stewardship?
Stewardship means making wise, intentional choices—not just for today, but for the legacy you’re building. Buy when it builds something lasting. Don’t buy just to satisfy a momentary feeling.
Riches in the Bible: Integrity in AbundanceLook at the lives of the faithful who were entrusted with much:

• Joseph – From the pit to Prime Minister (Genesis 41:42–43)
  
• Daniel – From captive to commander (Daniel 6:1–2)
  
• Amos – From fig picker to prophet (Amos 7:14–15)
  
• Job – From tragedy to multiplied wealth (Job 1:1–5)
  

All of them were richly blessed—but none of them were ruined by the blessing. Why?
Because they walked in faithfulness and integrity, and they remembered where their blessing came from.
And let’s not forget Paul’s heart in Philippians 4:19—“Whether in need or in abundance, I have learned to be content. My God will supply all my needs…”
Can You Stand Being Rich?We often ask God to bless us, to increase us—but could you stand under the weight of that blessing?
Let’s be women who prepare in the quiet place.
Let’s be women who live with open hands and clean hearts.
Let’s be women who build legacy—not just luxury.
Let’s be women who can be trusted with much—because we’ve learned to be faithful with little.
Because when we’re rooted in Christ, wealth won’t ruin us. It will resource us.

The five most powerful things we need as human beings are these:  to be loved, to belong, to be seen, to be heard, to be accepted.  When these needs are unmet our self-worth and identity can be deeply affected.  We can then subconsciously attempt to fulfil them in other ways and they can become an idol of identity for us.  In truth only in our relationship with the Trinity can we find the complete fulfillment of all these needs.  Growing up none of us are ever perfectly nurtured by our loved ones, and we have defining moments in our lives where these needs were unmet and have stuck with us into adulthood. 

God has gifted us all individually and we all carry a unique toolbox comprised of a perfect combination of gifts, skills, talents and experience that we can use to express who God is to the rest of the world and to play our part in building his Kingdom.  When the above needs are unmet and unhealed within us, our toolbox can become the means of affirming our identity and having those needs met e.g. the highly prophetic person who works the room until they are solely ministering to people, the person who is constantly sharing their spiritual encounters to prove their worth, or the prophet who loves the acclaim and importance of sharing their 'thus saith the Lord', or the one with the strong serving gift who is unable to be part of a team because they want full control.   Their need to belong, be seen, heard and affirmed are found in their toolbox.  While these people genuinely love the Lord, their ministry is marred by their woundedness and unmet needs.  God never revokes the gifts, and he extends grace towards us, but his heart is also that we would truly know that we are loved, belong, are seen, heard, accepted and safe with him. 

It is common when working with my clients to identify younger ages when they got 'stuck' because of an experience when one of these needs was unmet and it has remained unhealed into adulthood.  Let me give you an example.  Five year old Susan was left at school because her mother forgot to pick her up.  That experience left her feeling unseen and unsafe.  Her mother may not have spent time reassuring and reaffirming Susan afterwards and simply picked her up, soothed her for a couple of minutes, and carried on home.  This experience became a filter and a belief system within Susan that she now has to fight to be seen and safe.  This could mean that she feels she has to be the centre of attention but within scenarios controlled by her so she feels safe.  If something in her toolbox is useful for bringing her that attention, her identity can become wrapped up in that gift or talent because it meets a need that God is longing to fill her heart with.  

If you believe there have been some defining moments in your life where your younger self has got 'stuck', you can ask Jesus to identify them for you and to minister to that younger self, affirming that he is able to meet that need and that they (that younger self) can be safe with Jesus and grow into their adult self .  (Let me know if you want more info on this process).  

One of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to become brutally self-aware.  We all have blind spots and weaknesses we cannot see in ourselves.  Intimacy with God and a teachable spirit go along way towards hearing the loving, still small voice of correction to get you back on the right path.  Having trusted friends who can call us out when we get off the path are also valuable.  Often our healing only happens when something goes wrong and we are forced to confront the wounds.  My heart is that people would be proactive in working on their healing with the Father before this happens.  Because of his great grace and mercy he also understands that we are on the journey of appropriating our true identity in him.  He never condemns and he never expects perfection.  He looks at our hearts and honors our sincere efforts to be a blessing to others.  He wants us to know the power, the joy and the blessing of using our toolbox in a way that is pure from a heart that knows they are loved, seen, heard, belong, accepted and safe. 

​We are his delight, his beloved, his sons and daughters created in his image.  We no longer receive our identity or self-worth from the world but from him.  We are healed, all of our needs are met in him, and he loves it when we chase after that truth and make it a reality in our lives. 

***TRIGGER WARNING***  this blog is about our little ones we have lost and a way to heal. 
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