Our testimonies are stories of triumph over adversity of some kind. Working our way through offence can be one of the most challenging triumphs to achieve so sharing our stories with others often brings hope that you too can have the same triumph in your daily life. So here is one of my stories about journeying through offence.
A friend confronted me one day about the way I was speaking and behaving in a certain situation. It was done in a very direct way but without anger or unkindness. I didn’t have a problem with what I was being challenged about and I must say here, that I am not normally a person who is very easily offended, in fact it is rare for be to be so, and I believe that it is right that we can be appropriately held accountable for our actions by others.
What opened the door for the enemy to try and bring offence to me was the circumstances in which I was addressed. This conversation took place in front of others. I was not invited to have a private conversation regarding the issue and thus afforded an opportunity to go away and seek the Lord about what was said to me. I felt like I had been put on trial and had to defend myself there and then. It was belittling, dishonoring and embarrassing. I had no control over the process because to get up and walk out would have been taken the wrong way.
For the next two weeks I battled to keep myself from coming under an onslaught from the enemy calling me into offence, division, gossip and strife. I cried, I prayed, I questioned the Lord for understanding, I spoke out words of victory, affirmation and forgiveness over this situation. I tried my darndest to stay in the opposite spirit of what the enemy was trying to bring. The irony of this situation is that the very thing I was being confronted about, that person was doing to me at that very moment.
THESE ARE SOME OF THE STEPS I WORKED THROUGH:
Just to make sure I had journeyed into a good place through this, two weeks later the person concerned again did the very thing they had confronted me about. The reality is that we all have our blind spots and do and say things we shouldn’t. Some of it is just the ebb and flow of conversation and what is happening around us at the time. There is much we can overlook in people. We don’t have to take offence at every little thing, but instead extend grace and love and respond in a way that empowers everybody.