Hubby and I have been working together now since 2009. In that time we have had some massive adjustments to make in our relationship to keep it in a healthy space. We had some doozy arguments over those years, and it took effort on both our parts to make it work.
While these were challenges we had in our business life together, they did create a positive flow-on effect into our home life and marriage. Out of those years, and our current time working together we have tried to put all the points below into practice. We're still not perfect of course. We still interrupt each other, have misunderstandings and get frustrated. The important thing is that we consistently try to do our best and always try to honor and respect each other.
Some of the relationship builders below may already be points of conflict rather than togetherness in your relationship. Why not take this blog as an opportunity for you both to initiate a conversation that will bring agreement and strength into your relationship, and restore the enjoyment of working together.
A great deal of prayer and soul searching went in from me over this time and still does. I've had to deal with my wrong attitudes and old wounds, and stay open to the prompting of the Holy Spirit about any other areas where I was contributing to any negative issues in our relationship.
You Must Take Time Out and Have SupportWhen we eventually sold this business, it was not until we stopped that we realised we were actually burnt out, especially hubby. It took nearly a year for him to start feeling half human again. We had not recognised that we had been running on adrenaline, especially in the last 18 months when our suppliers were beginning to play dirty with us and our margins were going down rapidly.
The ongoing effect of this sustained period of adrenaline rush, even 3 years later, is that we still have days when we just crash. Our minds are not so quick off the mark anymore because when you burn out you burn neural pathways in your brain that can only take a miracle to repair. We would not have survived had it not been for someone who went out of his way to visit us regularly and lend a listening ear, encouragement and advice.
It is extremely important when you are in a high pressure situation over a prolonged period that you take enough time out,
Are there are other strategies that you have in place to keep your relationship in a healthy place? I would love to hear them. Drop me comment below.